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Mum's Got Cancer; Part Five

Last night I sat and read you a bedtime story - your favourite book from your childhood: The Velveteen Rabbit.



I then sat and stroked your hair and your forehead as you drifted off to sleep.

It felt so right to be there, to comfort you.  We didn't really speak but just being there gave me a peace.

Yes you are back at the hospice, but you are in the best place, where they can take care of you.

Today I have spent hours here, perched on the windowsill (obviously not a tiny one) as you dozed.  We spoke about the family and religion and your friends came and went.  Terry and Winnie came to visit and the nursing staff greeted you like an old friend.

I love you Mum and I will be here as often as I can.  It isnt about the memories now, it is about the connection, the comfort; for both of us.

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