Mum's Got Cancer; Part Thirteen

It seems amazing to me that I am writing another post.

As I rounded the corner at the hospice this morning, walking towards the bay you are in, I held my breath. I was greeted by smiles and there you were.

More amazingly I said hello and you spoke back! Mum you are incredible, amazing, an inspiration.

Lying there listening, with Alex and I, to some Graham Kendrick. We have moved you to your own room to give you some peace and the freedom to leave us when it feels right for you.

In the meantime I am in awe, as a Biologist, that you are still here. All of the staff are amazed and all we are pleased able to offer you respite. You aren't in pain, at least we don't think so, and we know you can hear us.

I think you are just catching up on all the sleep you have missed over the years. All of those early mornings; all of those sleepless nights due to your "hot legs".

We thought we would lose you to the MS but we were wrong. As you were not defined by Multiple Sclerosis neither are you defined by this. You are not your cancer. You are kind and loving and funny and strong, independent and loyal.

I love you

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